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Few pieces of advice are more frustrating to a mild autistic, since “common sense” in dating involves intuitively knowing the assumptions that others will make about you based on the cues you give off through what you say and do—which, of course, is precisely what AS causes you to miss.
Regardless of whether two people are meeting on a prearranged date or striking up conversation in a casual setting, each one’s emotional response is determined by the assumptions they make based on a multitude of factors, from body language, facial expression, and eye contact to manner of dress, choice of conversation topics, and tone of voice (the same principle applies to online dating, although the cues are different).
Cantu researched autistic communities online, but was disappointed by how many of them were made by non-autistics.
"These sites either portrayed autism in a negative light, or grouped us together without showing that each of us is different," she told Buzz Feed News.
As the community grows she hopes to begin events and contests, and said they will soon start a blog and online forums discussing dating tips and entries about everyday life on the spectrum.If we learn it at all, it’s because we’ve had others bluntly explain to us the “rules” regarding these and other related matters.Similarly, many of the practices that are generally regarded as “obvious” parts of dating feel like intimidatingly strange concepts to us, such as “flirting” and “bantering,” creating an intangible “chemistry,” or spacing out how often you call, text, e-mail, and/or suggest hanging out with a dating prospect."Because we all are autistic on the site, we can easily share each other's experiences that we may have difficulty expressing to non-autistics," Cantu told Buzz Feed News.Both Cantu and her mother, who is still married to her dad, have Spectrum Singles accounts of their own, but are only "there for friendship." The stars and writers of the skits, Michael Mc Creary and Olivia Goudreault, are both on the autism spectrum as well.